The Happy Sensitive Kids Community
In today’s fast paced world, it’s hard to be the parent of a Highly Sensitive Child (HSC). Here is how a determined mother created a community that makes a difference.
How It All Began
Amanda van Mulligen is a British writer married to a Dutch guy. Mother of three boys, she’s been living in the Netherlands for the past 16 years. Back in 2010 she was struggling with her three year old’s heightened sensitivity and didn’t have any support. How did she address that problem? Well, you could say she wrote her way out of it, via the Facebook community and Blog Happy Sensitive Kids.
“This blog is for all of you parenting, caring for, or educating a highly sensitive child (…) It’s a place for support, a place to help nurture our highly sensitive children, so that our children are happy sensitive kids”, she says in the About section of the blog.
Amanda heard the term HSC for the first time from her son’s preschool teacher: “‘Have you considered that he may be highly sensitive?’ she asked one day when we went to pick him up. “No, I’d never even heard of the term highly sensitive, let alone considered my son tobe highly sensitive”, Amanda states.
That was what she calls her aha moment: “When you have that ‘aha’ moment as the parent of a highly sensitive child, family life just suddenly makes more sense. Knowing that your child is highly sensitive doesn’t solve everything, but it certainly helps. You suddenly know why things are the way they are, why your child reacts the way he does. And when you understand the why you can move on to the how. And that’s when things start getting easier”, she writes.
A Thriving Community
After reading Elaine Aron’s website and book The Highly Sensitive Child, everything fell into place. There were challenges of course, but at least one thing was clear: a HSC doesn’t need a diagnosis — after all, according to Dr. Aron’s studies, around 20% of the world’s population is highly sensitive. In that sense, “the first step for a parent of a HSC is usually to educate those around them”, Amanda concludes. This is another reason she started writing about HSC’s.
Created in 2014, the blog now has over 4.500 visits a month from all around the world. The Facebook community, designed to be a “supportive, safe place to share tips, experiences, challenges and the joys of bringing up HSCs”, has 1.028 members right now. “As it’s a closed group you need to request membership but it also means that the posts can only be seen my members”, Amanda says. If you have a HSC and want to be part of a supportive community, this is the place to be!
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You can also read here my book review on The Highly Sensitive Child